Recognizing Psychological Manipulation

first_imgManipulation is a form of abuse that may go unrecognized.  Abuse, whether it is emotional, sexual or physical, is a traumatic experience. This type of abuse is linked to gender based violence.There is an increased level of gender based violence in Liberia is likely to result to marital rape, suffering to women, deprivation of liberty, threats of violence – leading to physical harm such as battering, psychological harm and gender inequality.These risk factors may be a tough pill to swallow, however it must be made known.We Liberians have the tendency to overlook issues in our society. Somehow we think the problem will solve itself, or we say, “It is the next man’s problem”.  If we do not take a stand now, the next generation will ultimately fall prey to abuse or continue the cycle of abuse. It is within our power to address the matter, to render support and advice to our neighbors – to educate both women and men within our communities.The purpose of this article is to recognize the signs of abuse, what it involves, how to safely move on, how to manage the situation and key ways to handle a manipulative person.After conducting research on the subject matter, I discovered that most abusers gain power and control over their victims by using various manipulative tactics.Psychological manipulation is an attempt to indirectly influence the behavior and actions of someone else through mental distortion and emotional exploitation and to seize power, control, benefits and privileges of a victim. The manipulator can do so by detecting a weakness and consequently using that weakness against their victim.CHARACTERISTICS OF A MANIPULATOR* The manipulator will exploit your weaknesses and make you feel inadequate. You may blame yourself for not meeting their needs. Being manipulated to feel bad about yourself, will lead you to eventually surrender your power and rights.* Manipulators may be charismatic and often have a hypnotic hold over others.* Some manipulators go from being highly polite to one individual and completely rude to another – or totally helpless one moment and aggressive the next. The manipulator will frequently play the victim.* A psychological manipulator is also a bully and will try to intimidate, verbally abuse and humiliate their victim.* Manipulative people use guilt, shame, lies and trickery to get what they want. They can never admit to being in the wrong.HANDLING A MANIPULATIVE PERSON* Prioritise your work and social life* Keep your distance and create a healthy lifestyle* You have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty. Psychological manipulators will make requests or outrageous demands to make you go out of your way to meet their needs. Use time to your advantage by saying, “I will think about it”.  Some may demand immediately action or response. Remember you have a right to be respected. Say NO.* When dealing with verbal abuse, confront the abuser with a friend or relative. Create your boundary, be confident in your response to the abuse and down play their insults.* Express your feelings, opinions and wants.LEAVING AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP* Talk to a trusted person about the violence. * Change your daily routine, contact number and work route or hours (if possible).* Keep a journal of all violent incidences, noting the dates, events and threats made.* Identify a safe place to stay.* Set money aside. Ask a friend or family member to keep hold of the money.* Life is like a game of chess. To win you have to make a move. Knowing which move to make comes with INSIGHT and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are accumulated along the way.“We become each and every piece within the game called life!”  – Allan RufusLiberian women have a natural ability to endure trying circumstances. We also possess great inner strength to overcome challenges.Knowledge along with awareness is a powerful tool; it is most useful in the handling of potential abusers and manipulative individuals. It promotes social change and will effectively decrease the number of cases being reported.Educating women on the main categories of abuse will encourage them to seek help; they will gain strength and courage in the process; it will empower them to help other women living with abuse .Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)last_img read more

50 million could watch Mayweather-McGregor in the US alone

first_imgEach pay-per-view sale means more money in the wallets of both fighters. Though estimates vary widely, Mayweather is expected to make some $200 million, while McGregor will likely pocket at least $100 million.Though ticket sales have been slow in Las Vegas — largely because of astronomical prices — the fight is shaping up as must-see TV at a price of $99.95. People are expected to buy the fight in record numbers, with many sharing the cost of the telecast with friends and family they invite over.Taffet said people will treat it much like a Super Bowl by getting together in larger numbers than usual.“I think this is first and foremost a television event,” said Taffet, who oversaw 190 pay-per-views in his career at HBO. “The success of this fight in the financial record books of history will be made on pay-per-view. And I believe it’s going to deliver.”Industry observers say it’s hard to judge how many homes will buy a pay-per-view until the day of the fight many times, as people often buy late. But the anecdotal evidence — primarily the chatter on social media — indicates a good likelihood of it smashing the 4.6 million record of pay-per-view sales set by the Mayweather-Pacquiao fight.ADVERTISEMENT That’s largely because the matchup will likely cross over from being just a sporting event to a party night.“We have definitely seen massive general market interest in addition to the sports fan,” said Stephen Espinoza, who heads sports for Showtime, which will televise the fight. “These general market viewers are often not part of the audience for even the biggest combat sports event. So the ceiling is pretty high.”Espinoza said the very nature of the fight — a matchup between a UFC star who has never boxed as a pro against one of the greatest fighters of his time — will drive the pay-per-view sales.“We believe this is an unprecedented event, quite frankly no one knows what to expect,” he said. “The element of these two outspoken personalities in one unprecedented event is compelling.”An early indication of interest in the fight is the massive betting both in Nevada and in other places where it is legal. Bookmakers say it will be the biggest bet fight ever, with an overwhelming number of the early tickets on McGregor to pull an upset.Still, there are plenty of tickets left in the arena itself, where prices originally ranged from $2,500 in the upper sections to $10,000 at ringside. Ticket prices have been dropping in the resale market — with some available for less than $1,300 on Tuesday — and are expected to decline more in the days before the fight.Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next Trump signs bills in support of Hong Kong protesters Celebrity chef Gary Rhodes dies at 59 with wife by his side NATO’s aging eye in the sky to get a last overhaul UFC champ Jon Jones flagged for another failed doping test Hotel says PH coach apologized for ‘kikiam for breakfast’ claim Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. Robredo should’ve resigned as drug czar after lack of trust issue – Panelo Robredo: True leaders perform well despite having ‘uninspiring’ boss PLAY LIST 02:49Robredo: True leaders perform well despite having ‘uninspiring’ boss02:42PH underwater hockey team aims to make waves in SEA Games01:44Philippines marks anniversary of massacre with calls for justice01:19Fire erupts in Barangay Tatalon in Quezon City01:07Trump talks impeachment while meeting NCAA athletes02:49World-class track facilities installed at NCC for SEA Gamescenter_img Ethel Booba on hotel’s clarification that ‘kikiam’ is ‘chicken sausage’: ‘Kung di pa pansinin, baka isipin nila ok lang’ Pagasa: Storm intensifies as it nears PAR “It’s a cultural event that crosses all demographics and all social and economic factors,” said Mark Taffet, who formerly ran pay-per-view for HBO. “People are getting together to have a great time and we surely need an excuse to have a great time.”Taffet said that while an average of 5-6 people normally watches a pay-per-view, he wouldn’t be surprised if the fight averages 10 people a household. If it sells 5 million pay-per-views as widely anticipated, the fight could be watched by nearly one in six Americans.FEATURED STORIESSPORTSSEA Games: Biñan football stadium stands out in preparedness, completionSPORTSPrivate companies step in to help SEA Games hostingSPORTSBoxers Pacquiao, Petecio torchbearers for SEA Games openingThe fight will also be seen by millions more worldwide, with promoters claiming it will be available either online or on a TV screen to more than 1 billion homes in 200 different countries.“If you are in Manhattan or you are on a desert island somewhere, if you have Wi-Fi, you can buy this fight,” promoter Dana White said. LATEST STORIES MOST READ This July 13, 2017 photo shows Floyd Mayweather Jr., left, and Conor McGregor, of Ireland, facing each other for photos during a news conference at Barclays Center in New York. So far fans aren’t exactly storming the box office to buy tickets for Mayweather Jr.’s fight next month with McGregor. A check online Saturday, July 29, 2017 revealed hundreds _ even thousands _ of seats still available from Ticketmaster at the T-Mobile arena for the Aug. 26 fight. There are so many open seats that fans with enough room left on their credit cards can buy six tickets together in 162 different spots throughout the arena. (AP Photo/Frank Franklin II)LAS VEGAS — Conor McGregor’s improbable challenge of Floyd Mayweather Jr. could be seen by a staggering 50 million people in the United States as fans and the curious gather in small and large parties.The fight Saturday night threatens the pay-per-view revenue record set by Mayweather and Manny Pacquiao two years ago and could dwarf it in viewership as people use the event as a reason to have friends and family over for a little escapism and controlled violence.ADVERTISEMENT Lacson: SEA Games fund put in foundation like ‘Napoles case’ View commentslast_img read more